I wrote about a page of stuff about how men need to treat their women better, but it sounded kind of blah. It's what I have on my mind though.

Being a man is hard work. You'd think that falling in love with a woman would make you man up even more. "I've got a woman now, I better be a good man to her because I want to hold onto her," but more often than not this doesn't seem to be the case.

I feel like I'm surrounded by men who act like their women should be grateful that they even have a man in their lives. This seems to turn the men into self-centered aggrandizing disrespectful and condescending little cunts.

My neighbor talks to his wife like she's a piece of trash. The only times he says her name, he sounds like he's talking to a dog who just took a shit he stepped in. When she tells him she understands something, he responds with sarcastic skepticism. He doesn't even talk to his dog that way. When he says his dog's name, his voice is soft and kind, even a little happy. When he talks to his wife it sounds like he's ordering a incompetent slave around.

There's a couple I follow on Twitter, and it seems like once or twice a week there's a tweet coming out of the female half about how her boyfriend has decided that he's been slighted in some way. Yesterday it was because her brother needed help with something, and it was making her late to a dinner date. Not only did he whine about this on Twitter by calling it "rude", but he also crossed the line further by repeatedly saying "nigga should hurry up" in regards to her brother.

Here's a break down, guys, since a few of you don't seem to get it.

If you have a girlfriend or a wife, you should be thankful you even have one. Some of you, with your acne scars, your oddly effeminate stature, and your apparent obliviousness to the fact that capris are something Mary Tyler Moore wears and not something men wear, should be especially grateful that you're not dating some gigantic wart covered fatty like you probably would be if there was any justice in the world.

You should hold onto this thankfulness, this gratefulness, and let it carry your through every situation you encounter. "My girlfriend is going to be late for dinner! ...oh well, at least I have a pretty girlfriend, and we'll get to eat dinner eventually, so who cares. I mean, if I love this girl and want to spend my life with her, I guess I can tolerate this 1 hour of waiting without turning into a bitchy little child throwing a tantrum on the internet."

Secondly, family is pretty important to women, especially Mexican women, and you're a fucking retard if you ever think you will be more important. This took me some time to learn, personally, because I'm full white (think "full retard") so I don't even really know my family, and when it comes to prioritizing I'm pretty sure "family" falls somewhere below "crustaceans" on my list of things I give a shit about. But women love family. They're all about it.

It makes sense when you think about it. I mean, family has always been there. If your girlfriend is in her 20s, that's 20 goddamn years that her family has been in her life. How long have you been in her life? A year or two? How could you ever possibly imagine that you could be more important than her family? Maybe after you've been married to her for 20 years, and you become her family, then you can feel like you're near-equally important, but you'll never be her blood, and you have to be respectful of that.

To carry that onward, a man never has any right to talk shit on his woman's family. You can, sure, but unless you're actually justified and do it in a calm non-insulting manner, you're just going to look like a dumb asshole. There are no exceptions to this rule. Even if her grandfather punches you in the face, you need to apologize to her grandfather for getting your face in the way of his fist. Or, if you're one of the guys I'm talking about, you should thank her grandfather for even wasting his time punching you because you clearly don't deserve the attention.

Now, women, if there are women reading this, you're also to blame for this. You need to stop tolerating this kind of bullshit. You're the victim of your boyfriend's spineless, bitchy rage. You need to act like it... and I don't just mean by playing the sad victim, you need to get pissed off. You need to recognize that your man is disrespecting you by putting his feelings and needs first, ahead of yours.

When he stamps his feet like a child (verbally or physically), you need to stamp yours right back. If your boyfriend has the nerve to abandon you and disappear for the night, you need to do the same thing right back to him. If he says you're being rude, you need to tell him that he is the one being rude.

When you love someone you should strive to be the ideal for them. We can't be the ideal perfectly, of course, but we can try really hard. Us men, especially those of us who have been hurt in the past by women, can have a lot of emotional baggage that we carry around with us. When you fall in love, you need to put that shit down, and if you feel the weight of it creeping up your back, you have to fight it. You have to fight it hard.

I have a lot of anxiety and paranoia issues. I get antsy when I don't hear from my girlfriend for a while. I worry: "Oh no, is she tired of me? Is she making out with some other dude? Did she die horribly in a car accident?" But then I grab a hold of myself and I think: "Oh, you're silly, you silly silly boy. Your girlfriend loves you and she'd never cheat on you or die in a car accident without letting you know first." Even that isn't really enough, though, and I still have to vent either to friends or on Twitter... but I always acknowledge that my emotional problems are not her problem and I try very hard to not make her feel bad when I make myself feel bad.

You can get upset all you want, but a man keeps it on the inside. A man keeps his cooler head, and gets upset when it's really warranted. A man doesn't just explode with bitchy rage every time something doesn't go exactly his way. A man recognizes that he is lucky to be experiencing the love of a woman; motivated by how grateful he is for that, he strives to be an even better man for her.

But I guess some boys just want to be little boys. They want to act like spoiled children, yelling at their girlfriends like they are broken toys. These boys don't recognize that they're the broken ones. All those problems that seem so real in their heads are actually the machinations of their own personal anxieties, and they have absolutely nothing to do with their girlfriends. These boys will ultimately end up alone, sitting somewhere in their Mary Tyler Moores, completely oblivious to how they dismantled their relationship by acting like bitchy little girls.

Real men will search the whole wide world for the woman they love, and when they find her, they'll battle the whole wide world---even if it's just in their heads---to treat her right and hold onto her. It might be an ideal, but it's an ideal worth striving for.

Be a man to the woman in your life. It's an honor and privilege to even get the chance.

Don't forget that.